sorry my mistake yes it is a flex plate not a flywheel.I think that is my problem is i know the convertor is installed correctly ie the double thunk.so it sounds like the convertor has grooves that mate to the flex plate.Is that right,because right now i can"t turn the convertor to put the torque bolt in.IT is snug up against the flexplate.

very frustating when you getting this far along.thanks for the help guys.