I tried the Moog "Oversized" ball joint, and it turns out it was only overpriced. What is weird is the Moog measured at 1.97", and the AC Delco measured 1.96", yet the AC Delco stayed in better than the Moog. The Moog would not even stay in the hole on it's own.
I was able to "fix" my control arm by following a suggestion in the thread zosoppp shared with me. I had a friend weld a bead around the outside of the hole, which shrunk the metal and allowed me to press in a ball joint. It actually worked. We were both totally surprised.
I installed the control arm to the frame and test fitted the spindle. Hopefully this will be the last time; it's a pain to get to the nuts on the driver side. I don't know how I am going to torque everything.
I ordered yet another AC Delco ball joint from Amazon which will be here on Friday. I need the rubber boot from the ball joint. If anyone needs a perfectly good ball joint that's missing a rubber boot, let me know. You can have the ball joint after I get it and take the boot off.
Weld job on the hole:
Ball joint pressed in:

Test fitted the spindle: