Project Vitamin C-10

[MacAttack]

Only a dad but he gives his all,
To smooth the way for his children small,
Doing with courage stern and grim
The deeds that his father did for him.
This is the line that for him I pen:
Only a dad, but the best of men.

Edgar A. Guest (Only a Dad)


Hang tough my friend and know that if there is anything you need, we're all here for you.

Mac.

[jgh64pkup]

sorry to hear that
it might not have been long life but i hope he lived a good one

[Alan's Classic]

Thanks for all of the prayers. My family really appreciate the thoughts. Just like the 911 attacks changed our lives. My life will never be the same again. We told our girls today and after about 10-15 minutes they were playing again. It's all just waves of emotion right now. I keep thinking it's not real and I will wake up soon. One very frustrating thing I have discovered is my dad and I were always behind the camera. I can't find any pics of us together in the same pic except for one back in 1984 when I went to the Philipines. Also realized I don't have any video of him, NONE. So if you have parents or any grandparents left go get that video before it's too late.

[joe231]

sorry i missed it Alan......

so sorry for your loss.....

[MacAttack]

Originally Posted by Alan's Classic

My life will never be the same again.

Alan, my Dad passed away in 97' and he was the same age - so I can relate a tiny bit. He lived up in a little town near the N/W gate of Yosemite, and unfortunately died suddenly and alone.

Mac.

[shrunken66stroker]

Far too soon. Condolences.

[Strodder]

Originally Posted by Alan's Classic

Thanks for all of the prayers. My family really appreciate the thoughts. Just like the 911 attacks changed our lives. My life will never be the same again. We told our girls today and after about 10-15 minutes they were playing again. It's all just waves of emotion right now. I keep thinking it's not real and I will wake up soon. One very frustrating thing I have discovered is my dad and I were always behind the camera. I can't find any pics of us together in the same pic except for one back in 1984 when I went to the Philipines. Also realized I don't have any video of him, NONE. So if you have parents or any grandparents left go get that video before it's too late.

That's some good advice Allan. I never thought of that before. I'm always the one taking pictures too. My Dad passed away almost 10 years ago. I have a few of us together. I wasn't that close to my Dad, but I'm glad I have those pictures.
Hang in there. My condolences again.

[ruffrida2005]

Good Idea Alan, My dad is the only one I can really talk about with my military problems.

[ol Curt]

Alan,

Grieving is a long process and the more and the sooner you can deal with the flurry of emotions the better. Some find comfort in writing a journal of their thoughts. Some can't do or write anything for a short time, but the sooner they start, the sooner the healing begins. Talk with your friends and family about your thoughts....it helps a lot. Whether you realize it or not, you have started that process here by sharing some of your thoughts with us. Thank you for doing that.

Believe me, I grieved for 28 years over the loss of a brother and didn't open up or write down anything. I thought I was a tough guy...but time and finally realizing I just needed to talk and write about it helped me through.

It sounds like your dad was a special person and will be missed. I will keep you in my prayers and everybody here is part of your family. I think you have made some friendships with some of the guys on this board and when the time is right, you should share some of the great times you had with your dad with them.

Bob

[1964C10]

Originally Posted by Strodder

That's some good advice Allan. I never thought of that before. I'm always the one taking pictures too. My Dad passed away almost 10 years ago. I have a few of us together. I wasn't that close to my Dad, but I'm glad I have those pictures.
Hang in there. My condolences again.

That is really good advice. My dad is not a real wanting-to-be-in-the picture kind of guy but he will be 69 next month and my mom is asking me to fly cross country for his birthday, initially I said no, but now I am thinking it is wise advice.

Alan, I have no idea what you are going through and I can't even imagine, but we are all pulling for you. And as others have mentioned, open up to your family, lean on them, especially your wife, I am sure she is doing all she can to be there for you.

[likaroc13]

i don't know that i could give you any better advice than these guys, but just know you're all in my prayers

[Captainfab]

Very sorry to hear this Alan.

I lost my dad nearly 6 years ago. We weren't all that close and it was still hard to deal with. I can just imagine how hard it is for those that are close to their dad's. Hang in there, I'll be praying for you and your family.

[Strodder]

Here's something E-Mailed to me. I thought I would share it with you guys.


One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore."

No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute."

Sometimes, what we care about the most
gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it,
care for it, fix it when it's broken and
heal it when it's sick.

This is true for marriage ...
and old cars, and children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, family and aging parents and grandparents.
We keep them because they are worth it .....
because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away

or a sister-in-law after divorce.


There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.

Life is important.. We only have one.


We only have one mom, one dad,
one unique brother or sister or friend.
I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'!

Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way.


Now it's your turn to send this to all those people who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it, if you feel that way.

Suppose one morning you never wake up.
Do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking....I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends and family know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do.


Live today to the fullest
because tomorrow is not promised

[Strodder]

BTW I love this Forum, and everybody in it. It's became my favorite place to be, and I belong to many.

[scotts62]

That was good Dennis i like that one

[ruffrida2005]

Alan were all hear for you. I just found out yesterday that I lost a dear friend.

[LinkbeltOE]

My condolences to you and your family Alan

[shortbed70]

Sorry to hear about your dad man I cant even begin to think about what that day might be like. Me and my dad are real close and he has done so much for me....Keep your head up and think about the good times.

[Alan's Classic]

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers again. Just stopping in to post some info for anyone in the local area to swing by. I doubt I will see anyone, but I can't say that I blame you. Who likes funerals? Just want to pass along the info. I'll comment on the previous post later.

The cause of death was suicide.

Viewing will be Sunday, August 16, 2009 from 5-7 pm at:
Hightower Funeral Home
318 Gordon Street
Bremen, GA 30110
770-537-2375

The service will be Monday, August 17, 2009 at 11:00 am at:
Poseyville United Methodist Church
6 Poseyville Rd.
Bremen, GA 30110
770-537-1311

[Strodder]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I bet every one was shocked.

[monolith]

My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Remember all of the good times- those wonderful memories will help you through the tough times.

[Old School Kid]

Sorry to hear about your families lose.

Although its difficult to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back at your memories help comfort you in the days to come...

[cjracing15]

Alan as everyone else has said I am sorry for your loss of your dad and thanks for the advice on the pics of our dads together. It got me thinking I don't have that many of just me and him. After this I am going to start to getting more of just me and him.
My dad is going to be 70 this next year and I treasure every moment we have together.

You and your family will be in my prayers tonite. May god bless.

[ol Curt]

Alan, the one person I grieved so long over was my brother and I lost him the same way two days after my 21st birthday. Please remember my thoughts about the grieving process. While we may not all be at the funeral, you will have hundreds of friends there in spirit.

Peace be with you.

[Alan's Classic]

Originally Posted by ol Curt

Alan,

Grieving is a long process and the more and the sooner you can deal with the flurry of emotions the better. Some find comfort in writing a journal of their thoughts. Some can't do or write anything for a short time, but the sooner they start, the sooner the healing begins. Talk with your friends and family about your thoughts....it helps a lot. Whether you realize it or not, you have started that process here by sharing some of your thoughts with us. Thank you for doing that.
Believe me, I grieved for 28 years over the loss of a brother and didn't open up or write down anything. I thought I was a tough guy...but time and finally realizing I just needed to talk and write about it helped me through.

It sounds like your dad was a special person and will be missed. I will keep you in my prayers and everybody here is part of your family. I think you have made some friendships with some of the guys on this board and when the time is right, you should share some of the great times you had with your dad with them.

Bob

I know it needs to be done. And it does help to get the feelings out. This thread was started to document my build of my truck ( which my dad will never see completed) and now it's turned into a therapy session about suicide. That's due to ya'll being my extended family. When I started this thread I had no idea it would turn into what it has and I am thankful to be surrounded with such high caliber people. Thanks for all of the help and support. I don't want to bore ya'll with a journal so to speak, but there may be an occasional entry

Originally Posted by 1964C10

That is really good advice. My dad is not a real wanting-to-be-in-the picture kind of guy but he will be 69 next month and my mom is asking me to fly cross country for his birthday, initially I said no, but now I am thinking it is wise advice.

Alan, I have no idea what you are going through and I can't even imagine, but we are all pulling for you. And as others have mentioned, open up to your family, lean on them, especially your wife, I am sure she is doing all she can to be there for you.

Don't miss a moment if you have a chance to be with a loved one, and treasure it cause it may be your last. My dad called me the day he died. Everything was fine. He called me to see who pumped out my septic tank. Then he realized I was eating lunch and hurried off the phone. That was the last I heard him. So slow down and take that extra minute with that friend or family member

Originally Posted by Strodder

Here's something E-Mailed to me. I thought I would share it with you guys.


One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore."

No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute."

Sometimes, what we care about the most
gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it,
care for it, fix it when it's broken and
heal it when it's sick.

This is true for marriage ...
and old cars, and children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, family and aging parents and grandparents.
We keep them because they are worth it .....
because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away

or a sister-in-law after divorce.


There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.

Life is important.. We only have one.


We only have one mom, one dad,
one unique brother or sister or friend.
I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'!

Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way.


Now it's your turn to send this to all those people who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it, if you feel that way.

Suppose one morning you never wake up.
Do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking....I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends and family know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do.


Live today to the fullest
because tomorrow is not promised

That's good!!!

Originally Posted by Strodder

BTW I love this Forum, and everybody in it. It's became my favorite place to be, and I belong to many.

Originally Posted by ruffrida2005

Alan were all hear for you. I just found out yesterday that I lost a dear friend.

My prayers to you!!

Originally Posted by shortbed70

Sorry to hear about your dad man I cant even begin to think about what that day might be like. Me and my dad are real close and he has done so much for me....Keep your head up and think about the good times.

I never thought I would be dealing with this this soon.

Originally Posted by Old School Kid

Sorry to hear about your families lose.

Although its difficult to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back at your memories help comfort you in the days to come...

It helps

Originally Posted by cjracing15

Alan as everyone else has said I am sorry for your loss of your dad and thanks for the advice on the pics of our dads together. It got me thinking I don't have that many of just me and him. After this I am going to start to getting more of just me and him.
My dad is going to be 70 this next year and I treasure every moment we have together.

You and your family will be in my prayers tonite. May god bless.

Originally Posted by ol Curt

Alan, the one person I grieved so long over was my brother and I lost him the same way two days after my 21st birthday. Please remember my thoughts about the grieving process. While we may not all be at the funeral, you will have hundreds of friends there in spirit.

Peace be with you.

Well said and I appreiciate everyones comments it really means alot. If interested you can sign the guest book here leave your screen name so I know who everyone is. Thanks